Here is a conversation between Wayne Dyer (the author of “Your Erroneous Zones”) and his student:
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.It’s one interesting way to look at our lives and problems. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing: your mother, your brother, your children, the government. If the society says something about you that you don’t like, or presents a certain situation, the way you take it depends upon what’s inside you. You will laugh through your difficult times if you are filled with joy. You will feel everything is going bad and people are bent on troubling you, if you are already frustrated.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?” ‘No! he laughed.
‘What about grapefruit juice?’‘No!’
‘What would come of it?’‘Orange juice, of course’
‘Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice comes out?’
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”I nodded.
“Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is “because that’s what’s inside”.
A guru went on to explain this practically. He took a cup filled with salt water and tried to pour sweet water in it. As the disciples looked on, all the sweet water kept flowing out while the guru emptied the vessel. The guru then explained –
“People seek joy, inspiration and faith. But all the while they are already filled with frustration, despair, skepticism. Before you can fill yourself with anything new, you first have to shell all that is already there.
In essence, our exposures do not decide what kind of a person we become. It is the way we go about handling them that matters. What’s inside is pretty much up to you, it’s your choice. Every little emotion that is in there, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside.
Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life. Squeeze out Love and Compassion. Have fun in everything you do. Otherwise there is no point doing it. To summarize all I have to say, here is a couplet-
पैमानों को छलक जाने दो, एक नया जाम चखना है ।
मंजिलों से आगे बढ़कर सुख़नवर नया अंजाम चखना है।